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It needed a touch of focus and polish, so here it is. Please share with people who might enjoy my work. Or your enemies, it’s not up to me what you do with it.


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wear my clothes

with nothing underneath

kiss the fabric with the scent

of your skin

moulded with the honey of

where my mouth has been

rough before

but tender after

press you under me

not to crush you

but to forge you

looking into your eyes

like i’m still fucking you

growl like the sunday morning animal

you called out for

even as i told you no

wear something of mine

it is a flag of victory

when i have conquered you

the sweetest invasion

you’ve ever known

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Sure Things



Candle flames in a storm

Enough to keep out the cold

Little things which seem small

The way a stone in your mouth

Keeps you from speaking

But they grant moisture

Enough warmth to keep out

The cold during a rough time

Such small things

Inspire men to strive

A passing touch

Can lead a conqueror home.

With the treasures of a new world

Offered for her smile

Guys are just like us in that they have words that they like to hear, and, unfortunately, they don’t always get them that often. There are a few phrases we all like to hear. “You look beautiful.” “You’re so smart.” “You are the most amazing person I have ever met.” “I love you.” Whether they […]

via 6 Sure Things To Say To Any Man To Make Him Instantly Fall In Love With You — phicklephilly


Inktober Day Two – Tranquil — Little Fears

Tranquil Inktober Day Two “I love you,” she said. “Step closer,” it replied.

via Inktober Day Two – Tranquil — Little Fears


I Remember Him — Caribou Crossings

I remember his voice in my ear His hand on my hip Fingers gripping me tightly I remember how I came alive Beneath his ministrations How the past faded And a future became possible I remember thinking This can never work God how I wish I was wrong One day he was gone He slipped […]

via I Remember Him — Caribou Crossings

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Why I write every day

“You might not write well every day, but you can always edit a bad page. You can’t edit a blank page.” —Jodi Picoult


What Art Can Be

Art can be a lesson that we leave behind, a horrible warning instead of a shining example. Art, he said, isn’t your little paintings and comic books. Art is the meteor that wiped out the dinosaurs

Joey Comeau.

Once you’ve finished something and put it out there, then it’s no longer yours but the other side of the coin is that you shouldn’t have to entertain those people telling you how they would have done it.

Didn’t think that The Hobbit represented your ethnicity/sexuality?

Write your own. Don’t complain on your blog, so you can have everyone nod in agreement and then nothing changes. Make your own mythologies around what you want to see in the world.

Sometimes, I’ve seen this outrage expressed and I know that it doesn’t change anything.  Deep down, I wonder if these people know that. If you’re blogging, tweeting, tumblring or facebooking then you’re writing about writing when you could actually be writing.

To quote The West Wing, decisions are made by those who show up. There’s no conspiracy to prevent different ideas coming up in the marketplace, it’s just you’re not putting them out there.  You can self publish, host your comic on a website, ask people for the money to make that happen.

Show courage and make your art. The other side of that is to tell a good story. If you’re simply retelling someone’s work with a character that represents your point of view, then that’s fan fiction but you’re not complaining about that, are you?

You’re dreaming of sitting there in the cinema and seeing you onscreen. Of holding the hardback, of hosting the exhibition.

I spent a long time not writing, and the short time I’ve spent writing has been exciting and frustrating all at once. I’m writing about what I want to see in the world, and oddly enough it’s not white men doing things because there’s lots of that to go around.

Don’t wish that Tolkien had been african, write your mythologies.

Don’t wish that Batman had been asian, write your own version. Strip it back to the core and rebuild it. Tell the stories you want to see in the world.

Keep telling them until you get good at them. Time and determination matter. Finish the things you start and spend more time reading and writing than complaining online about it.

View it as an act of generosity, that your stories are gifts to the world and keep doing it until someone says ‘hey, I want to buy that.’

Your outrage doesn’t take you anywhere, it just drains the light from your eyes until you see nothing but outrage. In this turn of the wheel, you’re you, whoever that is, don’t waste your creative time on anything but that which gives you joy.

I’m not outraged or complaining, I’m happy in what I do and in being an artist. You appoint yourself, I just see people complaining that they’re not being represented and doing nothing about it.  I say this because I want to see more good work, that talks from other places, other voices.

Stories are also fantastic ways to express ideas and beliefs in ways that resist dismissal. Think about it, don’t spit spite at strangers, seduce them with stories and then everyone wins in the end.




Creativity and Social Media

“It’s interesting that most gadgets are called ‘iPhone’ and ‘iPod,’ with that ‘i’ prefix, which is ego. But most creativity is not ego-led—a lot of it comes from the unconscious. So if you’re always checking your email or updating your Instagram profile, you’re not just looking out the window, daydreaming. You’ve got to let the subconscious in—that’s my main message to the world. I sound like I’ve been reading too many self-help books, don’t I?”

Jarvis Cocker

“I feel like it’s not about the music anymore—it’s about how many friends you have on Facebook and your Instagram pictures. I hate that. It’s such bad publicity for music and for true artists, and I’ll try to fight as hard as I can to not be like that.”

M83’s Anthony Gonzalez

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Papa Uniform Alpha

“[PUAs] figure out what makes charming assholes charming, and then they seek to bestow that same charm upon non-assholes.”

Clarisse Thorn

The worst advice, and perhaps the most well intentioned when it comes to meeting the opposite sex is to ‘be yourself’.  With respect, it’s important not to fake who you are, but to work on yourself so that you don’t need a woman/man to define you.

Such desperation feels like the emotional equivalent of when you swim out to someone drowning and they pull you down.

The Rules and The Game are two sides of the same coin, based in standard biological and cultural frameworks of male and female psychology and sexuality. I think we’re too complicated to reduce ourselves to a set of rules.

I’m writing about a PUA, although he’s certainly more from the self help perspective because I don’t think a misogynistic emotionally crippled leading man works that well for me as a writer. 

Who shows men/boys how to be? Part of that is attracting a mate, because there’s not the communication structures that women have, is there? We’re disconnected from our fathers, emotionally or physically, there’s no rites of passage for manhood now unless you include the corrupted frathouse or military service(between that and my grandfather and uncle, I came out of it ok)

Yes there are PUA courses that are troubling. There are aspects of ourselves that are troubling, irrespective of gender or culture. It’s interesting that a woman can say things like this about a group of men, that manages to link together disparate cultural events into a thesis that doesn’t really hold up to scrutiny. It’s journalism with all the memory of a goldfish, and very little research done to it. A shame as Freeman is consistent in her criticisms generally.  This feels like a first draft, and not the best use of her abilities.

Cultural subjugations of  women and their sexuality have existed  from footbinding and FGM through to cultural prohibition. It’s created a dissonance that’s inspiring in terms of the release and the emotional sweep that although I find abhorrent in real life, presents interesting story possibilities. In a utopia, there would be no art and you work with the tensions that you find interesting.

I look forward to a point where we’re just sexual beings who share and receive pleasure without judgement. I presume I am not alone in that. Surrender over submission is a good way to put it, and seduction is something that you do with another person, not to them.


Religion and Porn

Organised religion is against pornography in the same way that the mafia is against the Yakuza. Two opposing forces fighting for the same marketplace.

M B Blissett